Many people look at happiness as the measure of a good life. 

However, the problem with happiness is that it’s circumstantial. It’s a state of mind. So it’s always contingent on events in your life aligning (and they often don’t). And if you’re happy, you’re almost always one or two circumstances away from unhappiness.

Peace, however, is not circumstantial. It’s not a state of mind, but a way of being. It’s choosing peace despite reasons not to. It’s the willingness to say that hanging onto pain is not worth the cost.

If you want peace, you need to reshape your internal circuitry–how react to events–your habits. You need to let go of pain from the past that no longer serves you. 

You will always have two choices in life: accept what has happened to you, or not. Ask yourself these key questions:

  1. How does holding onto this pain serve you now?
  2. If someone has wronged you, does anger towards them or non-forgiveness change anything? Who does it punish?
  3. Does reliving an event help or harm you?
  4. What is preventing you from letting go? Whose permission do you need?”